Lonely

Who feels lonely? Or is it that anyone can feel lonely?

I have heard teenagers, married, single, young, old share ‘I feel lonely’. 

We experience many emotions. We feel happy, sad, joyful, exhausted, frustrated, delighted and  enthusiastic at different times. Sometimes there is a reason and otherwise there isn't. They say we are responsible for our own feelings and emotions and nobody can 'make us feel anything'. Does that mean that feeling lonely is just like any other feeling? Am I responsible for feeling lonely? Is it ok to feel so? How can I come out of it?

When you google ‘why do I get so lonely’, it says: “Loneliness can also be attributed to internal factors such as low self-esteem. People who lack confidence in themselves often believe that they are unworthy of the attention or regard of other people, which can lead to isolation and chronic loneliness.”  

I was reflecting on this, When I feel lonely I do feel low in confidence? I am self critical? I do feel no one has time for me? I do feel like no one cares about me or loves me. Though the truth is my friends or loved ones would be going through something in their life or they might just be living their life.

Somehow we feel the whole world revolves around us. I decide that ‘they don’t love me anymore’, or ‘I am not important for him/her.’ On one hand, I feel lonely and want some attention; and on the other hand, I am the one who is choosing to feel lonely or isolate myself. 

When one of my friend called me, “Come let's go eat your favorite hot chocolate fudge.”, though I knew I should go, it will make me feel good but just could not push myself out of that low space / feeling or isolation. Does that mean I am not receiving the love and attention shown by my friend?

If my best friend was feeling this way, what would I do? Will I even sense it? Would I pull her out or give her space? Would I get annoyed with her or generate love for her? Is it easy or difficult to be around someone feeling depressed? What would make him feel better? Should I make him feel better or let him go through his process? What would I do? What am I expecting that my loved ones do? What can I do to come out of this feeling?

Some of us might be looking for love, attention, connection, bonding, interaction, sharing, etc. Can we receive love from others when we don’t feel loving towards ourselves? Is it possible for others to make us feel loved? Or will  being in a space where all feelings are ok and are accepted help me accept myself and my feelings?

Questions! Questions! Questions!😀


Do you feel lonely sometimes? What would you do? How do you deal with loneliness? Do you agree with Guilermo Maldonado? Share your comments and thoughts below.

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