Do we understand Teenagers?

 I have been working with some teenagers and their parents. Also I have one at home. I remember when Skanda was about to turn 13yrs I was super stressed and we were getting into too many argutments and fights. One of my mentor, Ratnesh, questioned my believes about teenagers. I realised that I had many believes which was stopping me to create the bridge of understanding between me and my son. The belief that "Teenagers are difficult to handle" itself is enough to have the repercussions.

What other believes do we hold that is creating the wall in between the parent and the child?

Teenagers don't listen

Teenagers are very adamant.

They are not interested in any thing except for gadgets.

They are so rude to everyone

 

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